I’ve known the power of gratitude for a long time. I often ask myself the question: What am I grateful for, or note down the things that go well. From Positive Psychology Research there is proven science that writing down 3 things a day that you are grateful for or that went well, for 30 days in a row, will enhance your overall levels of happiness after six months, even after quitting doing the exercise after the initial 30 days. (Seligman)
In my trainings, I sometimes have participants ask eachother “what are you grateful for” and repeat this question for at least one minute, so you get past the obvious big ones (good health, nice house, family, children) and get into the small, but also significant ones (sunshine, good coffee, smell of a flower, etc)
Last week I had an insight that being grateful for the things that go well, is easy, but focussing one way only. What would happen if I also could be able to be grateful for the things in my life that are uncomfortable or painful? Because looking back on your life’s experiences, it’s often our hardships that come with our biggest lessons that enable us to move forward in ways that feel so much better and more aligned with who we are.
I tried it, doing the same exercise with someone else asking me “what are you grateful for?” over and over again. I started out with some positive ones and then shifted to negative experiences. The result was eye-opening. All that ever happened and happens in my life is part of my whole life-experience and I can be grateful for that. It brought me a sense of acceptance and feeling peace with everything that IS.
What are you grateful for?
Lots of Love,